Why Am I Not Hungry Sexually?

What is libido?

Libido means desire for sex or sexual hunger. It is also called sexual drive, sexual passion, sexiness, sensuality, sexuality, lust.

Why do I always have no mood for sex?

Low libido may be due to a variety of reasons as discussed below:

  • Psychological and psychiatric conditions like anxiety and depression reduce sexual desire
  • Excessive emotional and physical stresses also suppress your sexual appetite
  • Marital disharmony, relationship and personal issues can reduce libido
  • Chronic medical conditions including cancers, cancer treatments, and chronic pain are important causes of low sexual drive particularly in older men
  • Many medications like antidepressants and pills for high blood pressure can affect sexuality
  • Excessive alcohol intakes and drugs like marijuana can lower sexual hunger
  • Low testosterone level is another cause of low libido

How do I find out the cause?

To find out the cause of your low sex drive, it is important to see your local doctor. The doctor will take a detailed medical history, asks what medications you are taking, do some physical examinations and may order tests including test for testosterone. The doctor may not order any test if he/she finds out that your low libido is due to psychological, relationship or personal issues.

Is there any treatment?

Treatment for low libido depends on the cause. If it is due to psychological, relationship or personal issues, your doctor will refer you to a psychologist or sex therapist. You (and your partner) may be given counselling or sex therapy.

If medications are the cause of low libido, they need to be substituted or withdrawn. If your blood test show low testosterone level, the doctor may treat you with testosterone therapy.

Is there any role of lifestyle in increasing libido?

Yes, adopting a healthy lifestyle can increase your libido. Please practise the following:

  • Quit smoking if you are a smoker
  • Lose weight and get physically fit
  • Exercise regularly but not too much
  • Quit drugs
  • Reduce or quit alcohol if you are drinking excessively

And please remember, your low libido may not need any medication or therapy if you just follow simple things like:

  • Kissing your partner slowly and sensually
  • Playing, caressing and exploring each other’s body especially before sexual intercourse
  • Massaging each other
  • Having a warm shower or bath together
  • Undressing each other
  • Appreciating each other’s body
  • Give your partner as much of extra time as possible
  • Do not take your worries and work related issues to bed

Sometimes a Bent Penis Is Due to Vasculitis

Most men don’t personally encounter a lot of erect penises. Sure, they may see them when watching pornography, but it’s pretty well accepted that the penises on display in many adult videos are not necessarily representative of the actual norm. And so without a real-life frame of reference, a guy may become alarmed if he finds he has a bent penis when it is erect and may worry about his penis health and function.

In fact, many men quite naturally have some curvature of the penis. It’s only when a bent penis is at so severe an angle that it becomes painful or affects its functionality that a man needs to be concerned. There can be several causes of a severely bent penis, one of which is vasculitis.

Peyronie’s disease

Typically when a man has a penis which curves to such an extent that it is of genuine concern, he is said to have Peyronie’s disease. When a man has Peyronie’s, the curvature is caused by a build-up of plaque or scar tissue in an area of the penis.

Why does scar tissue have this effect? Basically, scar tissue is part of nature’s way of healing. So if an area of the penis receives some form of trauma, the scar tissue forms as part of the reparative process. But the tissue in the penis needs to have a high degree of elasticity, so that it can go from the smaller flaccid state to the larger erect state.

Scar tissue negatively impacts the tissue’s ability to expand properly. When the penis gets the signal to become erect, it starts stretching out. The part of the penis without the scar tissue stretches to its full degree, as normal. But the section with the scarring at one point says, “Stop! That’s as far as I can go.” With one side fully erect and the other pulling back on the expansion, curving occurs – left, right, up or down, depending on where the scar tissue is.


Vasculitis is a condition in which blood vessels become inflamed. It can occur anywhere in the body, including in the penis. The inflammation can damage the blood vessels, making them weaker and/or narrower. If it gets too weak, it may break, which causes scar tissue to form. If it gets too narrow, the blood has a harder time getting through, which may cause blockage. With less blood flowing in, less oxygen also flows in – and that can also damage the tissue, creating scarring.

Vasculitis is still poorly understood by the medical community, and its exact and complete causes are unknown. However, it is often due to infections (such as hepatitis B or C), problems with the immune system (such as lupus or rheumatoid arthritis) or reactions to some drugs.

If a doctor diagnoses a man with vasculitis, he will prescribe appropriate treatments, which often include corticosteroids and immunosuppressing medications. Often treating the vasculitis can have an effect on the bent penis; in other cases, the scar tissue may be too far advanced and other methods may be employed if necessary to correct a significantly bent penis.

Treating a bent penis due to vasculitis or other causes is made easier when the overall health of the manhood is not in doubt. Regular use of a top drawer penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) can help improve penis health. Look for a crème that includes L-carnitine. Often, scar tissue build-up can “deaden” sensation in a penis, and L-carnitine is useful in helping restore loss of sensation in the member. The crème should also include vitamin C, which is a key component in keeping the penis skin toned and elastic.